Look-and-personality-are-different.

David De Angelo says “…women in general are attracted to personality first and looks second, while men are attracted to looks first and personality second.”

Looks don’t matter as much as a great fun personality….but what is the difference between Looks and Appearance?

You CAN’T change your LOOKS – That’s the way you are born.

You CAN change your APPEARANCE – That’s the way you dress, the way you walk, the way you portray yourself to the world.

Many of the guys who I meet say to me, “Yeah, but I’m not a good-looking guy…I don’t look like Brad Pitt.” etc… I then look at them and see the way that they are dressed.

Their appearance just yells to me: “Umm, I don’t think I’m a good-looking guy. I have no control over that and now I don’t feel like ANY girl would like me because of that.”

The way they dress, the way they act tells me this, NOT the fact they may not be the best-looking guy in the world. Understand?

They are being controlled by how they THINK they look and then acting in that character INSTEAD of realizing that they were born that way, and then making an effort to make their APPEARANCE as good as possible.

I believe that ANY guy can make himself look at least a 5 out of 10! All it takes is the realisation that you are in control of how you appear to the world, and to make that effort to make yourself appear as good as you can.

When you wake up every morning you have two choices: Either you decide that your appearance is important and you dress accordingly, or you don’t think that your appearance is important so you don’t bother. What do you think it portrays to others when they can tell by the way you have dressed that you don’t place importance on such a thing?

It tells them that you will most likely be the same when it comes to many other aspects in your life. IF you want to attract, interact, and get the respect of cool, beautiful females – those girls who spend hours everyday on their own appearance (and don’t say you don’t want a girl like that – every girl I know spends time and effort every day on her appearance), wouldn’t it then make sense that she would also be very aware of the way YOU appear to the world?

Are you the kind of guy she would be embarrassed walking down the street with?

Or someone she would love to be seen with?

The guy she would love to have meet her friends and family?

As I said before, every morning when we get dressed we have TWO choices.

To make an effort about how we will appear or to NOT make an effort. She doesn’t care about any physical defects you were born with BUT she does care about the way you portray yourself to world.

- Appearance is something YOU can CHANGE.

- Looks are what you are BORN with.

Appearance is not just the clothes you wear, it is also your body language, the way you carry yourself. Make a little effort every day and you will not only start to feel better, you will also notice you get a lot more compliments and girls interested in what you have to say.

In case you don’t realize this, when girls start to comment on how you dress, it is a MAJOR sign you are doing something right.

Keep it up